Thoughts from Flyover Country
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My Chicago
friends are losing their shit.
Eric Barry,
a writer and comedian no one heard of before Tuesday, wrote an
article on Huffington Post that has since gone viral. It’s called Goodbye, Chicago: What It’s Like To Live In
A City You Tried To But Couldn’t Love. If you think the title sounds pretentious, fear not: The substance
of the article is so much worse. Barry, a native Californian, is snobby and
self-righteous as he tears down everything from Chicago’s sports culture to its
food, “subtly” jabbing at Chicago’s issues with economical inequality and race all while proclaiming his own privilege as wealthy and white. Every back-handed
compliment is followed by a loud and distinct but. Any legitimate complaints he has about the city drown in his arrogant and, dare I use a conservative buzzword here, elitist tone. It’s no wonder that my
Chicago friends—and the rest of the city—have greeted Barry’s condescending
farewell with a collective middle finger.
I have
never lived in Chicago, but reading that article struck a nerve in me. It’s an
old nerve, one that tingles every time a friend moves to the east or west coast
and acts like they’d relocated to a different planet. It tingles every time someone
proclaims my area “flyover country” or asks me “why on earth” I live in
Cleveland. It tingles whenever a friend on the coast tells me that I “belong in
San Francisco/LA/New York City” and tries to persuade me to move there.
I have
lived in Ohio my entire life, and not entirely by choice. I attempted and
failed to move to Chicago when I dropped out of college (rental agencies there
all but laughed me and my shitty credit score out of the city.) Every year
around February, when I’ve been snowed into house arrest, I find
myself taking stupid internet quizzes like “What California City Do You Belong
In?” and checking out houses on the coast on Zillow. I dream of sunny weather
and a citrus garden, of places where tattoos and coloured hair and queerness
are commonplace and protected (and employable.) The era of Trump has made this
desire much stronger, and made Ohio much more frightening. Even though
Cleveland is a blue speck in the red sea of Ohio, houses and storefronts on
every block are spattered with the leering red face of Chief Wahoo, and
countless idiots dress themselves as parodies of Native culture to support the
racist icon. Even in Lakewood, the bluest speck of the blue speck in the red
sea of Ohio, I heard an argument in my apartment parking lot that ended with a
white man screaming, “Go back to your own country, n*****!” I have to endure a Don’t Tread on Me flag waving proudly in
a yard on my street, and one of my neighbors’ cars sports a Paul Ryan for President bumper sticker. Paul
Ryan. I shit you not.
I’m not
naïve. I know that there are idiots, racists, bigots, and far-right
conservatives in every city in the country. I don’t think LA and New York City
are sparkling liberal utopias free of racial slurs and backward political
opinions. But it is no secret that east and west coast liberals enjoy life as
the majority group of their cities, with liberal politicians pushing
progressive policies. In Ohio, I’ve always been in the ideological minority,
and, especially in the era of Trump, being that anomaly in a largely
traditional, conservative culture is more draining than I like to admit.
However, if
I’m being honest with myself, I know that I don’t belong in a big city. Crowds
(dance clubs aside) and excessive traffic frighten me. The thought of carrying groceries
onto public transit fills me with dread. The fast pace and general
unfriendliness of extremely urban areas stresses me out to no end. I’m a
progressive little freak, but a city-dweller, not so much. Often my restless
winter Google searches consist of “Liberal small towns in California” or
“Liberal areas outside of LA/San Francisco/etc.” I like the amenities of
cities, but I like knowing my neighbors and smiling at passersby and my barista
knowing my order and my first name more. I won’t go so far as to say I’m a
small town girl (shut up, Journey,) but I don’t hold any illusions that the
anonymity and coldness of big cities wouldn't drain the life out of me. In theory, Lakewood
is perfect for me and my husband: A progressive little city with quirky restaurants and cafes
that’s a ten-minute drive to a bigger city with a thriving arts scene and
countless festivals, concerts, and other activities throughout the year.
But…
Perhaps Eric Barry’s
condescending criticism about Chicago’s culture being “too Midwest” stuck a
nerve because of the truth in it. The east and west coasts are the undeniable
cultural hubs of our entire country. Our music, our films and TV shows, even
our generational lexicon originate from one coast or the other more often than
not, and that influence bleeds into the rest of the country—with a delay. And
that delay is what has always dissatisfied me about living where I do.
I bristle a
little even seeing that written down. Perhaps it’s because I’ve been slow to
emotionally mature my entire life, or maybe it’s because of my ridiculous ego
when it comes to my intellect, but the idea of being behind triggers in me a deep-rooted and frantic insecurity. It irks me to a pathetic degree. I remember how upset I was when I finally
became aware of phrases like echo chamber
and side hustle, only to find think
pieces about them online that were written years ago. Despite the fact that the
internet and television broadcast our culture across the nation at the same
time, there is still, somehow, a 2-5 year cultural gap between the coasts and
the rest of the country. And it drives me nuts.
Ladies and
gentlemen, the aesthetic paragraph break.
It is this
insecurity of falling behind that
ultimately drives my desire to move to California, or sometimes Oregon or
Washington. I don’t like the idea that I’m living in a cultural past; that I,
my family, and my future spawn must endure prejudices, pressures, and policies
that faded long ago in other parts of the nation. I don’t like how beliefs I hold
are strange or radical in Ohio but damn near mundane in NYC. But honestly, what
I really don’t like is the arrogance
with which I and others like me are treated by those living in our country’s
cultural hubs. Being talked down to by people who are no smarter than I am
(better informed at best) sparks the temper I’ve spent my life trying to tamp
down. In those moments I truly understand the resentment that many rural
conservatives have for the “coastal elites” and I even feel a bit defensive
about the state in which I was raised. Blind pride repels me—whether it’s
sports, patriotism, or state/city/neighborhood “pride,” it all smacks of
tribalism and a willful ignorance akin to religious faith. But when a college
friend flies home from their 4k studio in San Francisco and laments Cleveland’s
lack of culture, night life, or, hell, I don’t know, organic craft beers, I
definitely feel the urge to squeeze my eyes shut and scream “CLEVELAND ROCKS!”
like a belligerent Browns fan after yet another defeat. I feel that way because
it feels like my entire lifestyle is being judged as antiquated, or lacking, or
culturally bereft. And if I like this city, I like my life, then oh,
sweetheart, I just don’t know because
I haven’t lived in the paradise that is: The Coast. And I know that my friends
mean well, but it feels all the more insulting when they try to tell me that I don’t
belong in Ohio. Like I’m some sort of Midwestern Eliza Doolittle who just
needs to be dressed up and shown the ways of high society to meet my True
Potential.
Another aesthetic paragraph break.
Mama’s on a roll.
Again, all of this stings because
it jabs at more than one of my personal insecurities. The fear of being somehow
behind, as mentioned, but also my
restlessness. I’m one of those assholes who always has a new scheme cooking up
in my head, a scheme that’s going to make me money, keep my GAD in check,
improve my life, take me to the “next level.” There’s always some “next level”
that I can reach, whether it’s through a nutritional shift, a new class or
hobby, hyper-scheduling, whatever. There’s always something I can be doing to
make me “more” than what I am now, to reach my True Potential and become the
Big Important Success that everyone thought I was going to be when I was young.
Obviously, none of that is true. Hyper-scheduling makes me more productive,
nutritional shifts make me healthier, but they don’t end up being a “next
level.” And the sad truth is that once you hit a certain age, your chances for
reaching “next levels” and finding your True Potential begins to slow. And as I
stand on the precipice of that time in human life when “what I will be” begins
to be replaced by “where I ended up,” the idea that the gap between where I am
and where I want to be is simply a matter of geography has the potential to
drive someone like me completely mad.
Why? Because we can’t all move to
San Francisco or New York City or Portland. Finances, family, career paths, and
so much more are roadblocks that too many of us cannot overcome. In my current
financial situation, I can’t even splurge on an anniversary gift for my
husband, let alone pack up, put down an apartment deposit, and move across the
country to a city that’s 80% more expensive to live in than where I am now. Some
of us don’t have the skills to find work that pays enough for us to even live
in one of those big beautiful cities (yay, crippling debt for a degree in
Creative Writing.) For every “packed up everything I owned into a truck and
just went” success story, there are a few hundred stories where that ended in
having to return home after sleeping in their car for a few months.
All of this is at the core of my
defensiveness of Cleveland and the Midwest in general. We progressives who can’t
or won’t move to the all-important coasts of the country aren’t behind by choice. And many of us have
fought tooth and nail to make where we live now more progressive, safer,
better. And when some douche nozzle like Eric Barry flutters in from his privileged
little perch and shits on our culture with zero understanding of the fact that
our cities had to do double the work to get where we are, then yeah, some of us
will have a hard time resisting the urge to put a boot to his ass.
So…yeah. Sorry for falling off the
rails more than once here. It’s been a while since I blogged. Let me get back
into the swing of things, kids.
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